The most profound relationship we will ever have is the one with ourselves
“I encourage women to explicitly rebuff unwanted approaches, but I know it is difficult to do. Just as rapport building has a good reputation, explicitness applied by women in this culture has a terrible reputation. A woman who is clear and precise is viewed as cold, or a bitch, or both. A woman is expected, first and foremost, to respond to every communication from a man. And the response is expected to be one of willingness and attentiveness.” — Gavin de Becker, from “Gift of Fear”
“[He dumped her for another woman?] Even a weatherman could have called THAT one. (“High-pressure, low-integrity blame system approaching from the south. Dense cloud cover, increasing psychodrama. Partly charming today, 90% chance of disrespect tomorrow. Relative humiliation 100%.”)” — Tavia, commenting on DT’s predictable behavior
“Just because I accept you as you are does not mean that I have given up all hope of your improvement http://besthookupwebsites.org/transgenderdate-review.” — Ashleigh Brilliant
“Once a woman passes a certain point in intelligence, it is almost impossible to get a husband: she simply cannot go on listening [to men] without snickering.” — H.L. Mencken
Blaming anyone else, even someone who abused or hurt you in childhood is not going to help you heal now
“PEACE comes, not from an ABSENCE of Strife and Conflict, but in our ability to COPE with it.” — unknown (Seen on a Jacket in a pharmacy late at night)
It will not help you learn how to maintain relationships
“Somebody just needs to massage that boy’s forehead with a brick. I mean, why doesn’t he just lie down IN FRONT of the oncoming train?” — Tavia
“So fucking what if you’re willing to admit you’re wrong? Willing to admit it doesn’t buy you a “get foot out of mouth free” card.” — The No Queen
“To want to get better means be ready to face the pain. It is only when you face the pain that you will begin to gain a healthy perspective from which you can then think less distortedly, to the point where you will be able to recognize when you are so triggered as to blur your past with someone in your present.
Personal responsibility is key here as well. You must take responsibility for your needs, your wants, your pain, your actions and you must learn that there is no excuse for abuse. It will not help you meet your needs. It will not help you to find yourself.” — A.J. Mahari, from “The Blame Game”, an article on BPD at Suite101.
“Every time I say something they find hard to hear, they chalk it up to my anger, and never to their own fear.” — Ani DiFranco
“I jest, of course; premature ejaculation isn’t a laughing matter for anyone, except for your friends when you tell them about it on the phone the next morning. My first marriage ended because the main event was invariably over before my husband got his socks off.” — Julie Burchill
“I like my agression up front where I can see it and deal with it. I’m tired of the weak-minded passive-aggressive bullshit that people fling while claiming to be “non-confrontational”. Anyone who can’t confront/address issues head-on isn’t someone I care to spend much time in the company of.” — Nataliep
“FEMINISM IS MY FIGHT. In fact, until more men get involved in this fight . then nothing will change at all. You might have a nation of enlightened women ready to kick some ass and change things, but the very people who run this world will just be standing there with their arms crossed.” — R. Eirik Ott, Wussy Boy Chronicles editor, Bust (Winter 2000) – as seen in the Utne Reader online